#295
Clint  0:00  
Hey everybody, welcome to the wedding ceremony podcast. We talk about anything and everything that has to do with wedding ceremonies. This is episode number 295, recorded on Tuesday, November the 17th 2020. My name is Clint Hufft. And with me is a gentleman that, oh my gosh, we're internationally famous, the one and only JP Reynolds.


JP Reynolds  0:25  
There's so much I want to say.


Clint  0:30  
Okay, JP is an accomplished author. His books are in the Amazon store and in the Kindle store in Amazon. He is a communications expert, thebusinessofconfidence.com is that website. His wedding website is Jprweddings.com. Mine is ReverendClint.com or Clinthufft.com For all the things that I do. Now, when I say internationally famous, we got an email, and it's awesome. This is so great. It's from somebody named Carlos with a company called pod status. And the email says, “Hello, how's it going? Hope all is well. I have some cool information that might interest you. Your podcast, wedding ceremony podcast, has good performance in some rankings last 30 days.” And here it is. Here's the deal breaker. This is so awesome. Position 98 in the category personal journals, Italy. I don't know who those other 97 people imposters are in Italy. I don't even know how to say imposters in Italian.


JP Reynolds  1:46  
That's because of, I will come clean, It's because of my connections at the Vatican.


Clint  1:52  
Oh, really? I knew it. I knew that would come in handy One day.


JP Reynolds  1:57  
Pope Francis listens to the podcast. I have it on good word.


Clint  2:03  
Good word. Yeah. Can we dive into that a little bit? 


JP
No. 


Clint
Well, you can imagine how thrilling This was when I opened this email. And I said to myself, I don't care if it is a bot. We're number 98. In Italy.


JP Reynolds  2:24  
Okay, if you are in Italy, and you are listening to us, we embrace you. And send us some pizza.


Clint  2:36  
Yes. Or as you said before we hit the record button. Prove it. Oh, so good. Okay, JP, you said you had maybe something you'd like to chat about?


JP Reynolds  2:53  
That's correct. So in the last month or so after like eight months of not doing any weddings. In the last four to five weeks. I've been doing micro weddings from the micro micro size to the large micro size. And there is one in particular that I've not had a chance to share with you. This was a couple of weeks ago.This was about two weekends ago, Clint. You may recall we had like real weather. That we had rain that weekend. All right. Well, I was doing micros, I was microing that weekend. So, these were all couples who were already on the books at various points during the year. And as they stumbled towards the end of the year just decided, we've got to get married. No matter what we're going to do next year or in 2022. We're getting married. So I already had a relationship with these various couples. But on this particular Saturday, two Saturdays ago, I was outside of LA for for a wedding That originally is going to be like 150 hundred and 175 people. They cut it down to about 70 people. Very lovely resort with an event planner whose work I really enjoy and marvel at. And it was overcast, driving down, raindrops falling on the car, it was just a little surrealistic. I mean, I've not done a wedding in eight months. And finally, when I'm doing something of a sizable number, it was the rain. And for anybody who has listened to any number of our podcasts knows how you and I feel about rain, or in particular how I feel about rain. So, get to the venue. And she's done such a wonderful job. It's on a terrace. And I should point out that for the venue, all events, corporate, wedding, everything must be held outdoors, there is nothing can take place inside. So the idea is the ceremony is on the terrace, and then the reception will be on another portico patio type thing that would have ceiling covering, but open sides. So for the ceremony aspect, the event planner, had erected a tent that had a clear roof to it. And it was four open sides to this tent. And I was standing out obviously, where you normally stand. And that's where there was floral decor, and all that good stuff. And it was flush against a wall. I looked and I thought, it's a little nippy, there'll be rain. But we've got ourselves a tent. Okay, so now that I've set that up. Prior to the ceremony, there are 2, 3 things I want to say about this, that remind me of why we love weddings, right? So brides of the ceremony, know we have a holding area, had never met the couple in person, before everything was done by zoom. Because when they first met me, they were out of state. 
All right. So I'm introduced to the parents and all that good stuff. And some time goes by and just standing around. And at one point I like hear the groom talking to the bride's mother and father. And he's reviewing with them. What's going to happen in the procession, like father's gonna walk the bride down the aisle, they're going to stop at the first row. And then the mother is going to take a step over and join them. And I'm going to ask who presents this woman and the parents together, we're going to say a word or two, lovely little touch, and then the groom will come over and give them a hug and all that sort of thing. He's describing this to the bride's parents. And I thought, Oh, I might as well go over here, because it's like, this is my show. I go over and I said, You are spot on. I said, but you know what? You don't have to worry about anything. I'll guide you through it. Just enjoy. 
The mother says to me, Oh, thank you. She says That's very kind of you. But I do have a question. She's just now what am I supposed to say we do? Or I do? And I said, Oh, you can say whatever you want. I mean, technically it's we do, you'll say it together. But it's fine. Oh, no, because I really want to say I do. That's fine. That works. She says okay, then the husband says, No, we're going to say we do.
I just want to say I loved 20 minutes before the start of the ceremony. These parents aren't like getting into an argument about I do versus we do. And finally, I just looked at them and I said, You know what, it really doesn't matter. I said, I realized we just met. And you're going to have to trust me. I said, because in approximately 15 minutes time, you are going to lose your mind. You will not recognize your daughter when she comes down the aisle, you will not know I from we, when I asked that question, the two of you are going to stare at me. And you will have no words. So just enjoy it. It's that exquisite moment.


Clint  10:33  
Well, you handled that really well. Because while you were telling me when you said, either way, and then the interplay between the father and the mother, I thought to myself, Oh, I am so happy for JP, he is in hog heaven right now, being a part of this conversation. This is just right up your alley. It's so great.


JP Reynolds  10:53  
It's fabulous. Fabulous. But she had actually reached out to me a couple of times by email since she was giving me payment and everything. And I said I just have to tell you how much I love this conversation. It because this is only a conversation that the mother could have. This is a true mother of the bride conversation. Just fabulous. Fabulous. No father, the bride, we care about it versus wait, just the exquisiteness of detail. 
So then we move on to the ceremony and and there we all are under the tent and it's getting darker, cooler and and it's now time for the vows and the groom delivers his vows just so, Oh, so heartfelt, so exquisite. And then I dramatically hand the bride her vow book. And she begins the vows. And I think she got into like, three sentences. And out of nowhere, it started to rain. Oh, and it was just pellets, pellets on the plastic tarp that was was shielding everybody. But it was just pelting and loud. And people laughed for a moment. And we had a good sound system. She was holding the mic, and she just plowed through. And I was just like, this is dramatic. And we're covered. And of course, what I didn't realize was that we all were covered by the tarp. Except one person. Oh, no. Yes. And however it was where I was standing. I thought I was standing underneath some floral decor. And I guess I was but that decor was not covered by the tarp. And so the rain just started to it was like being in a bathroom shower. And then suddenly, it was like somebody took a bucket. And just like God did on me. Yes, yes. Yes, yes. And there's nothing to do because there is no place indoors that we could even if we wanted it as an option that we could go to. We just was just no option, because pandemic regulations.


Clint  14:05  
You talk a lot about maintaining social distance and, being safe and that kind of stuff. In my mind's eye, the way I envision what you're describing, you're kind of stuck, because you don't want to move closer. You know what I mean? Did it feel like that?


JP Reynolds  14:18  
Well, in that moment, you're thinking more rain than COVID. But I did motions. And it was tricky because she's in the middle of the vows. And they were beautiful vows. So they instinctively moved a little bit further into the aisle. And I moved a little bit but it still wasn't enough. And I just looked at everybody and I said, folks, don't worry, we only have 45 minutes left to the ceremony.


And yeah, a got them laughing and the bride continued. And it was like by God we are plowing through, and we still had the rings and the blessing and I have never. I mean, truly drenched. Part of why I'm telling this because it's in our ongoing series of rain stories. But then when we went into air afterwards, when I went back to where they were holding up. And the parents, a couple other people said, Wow, he said, you just were just unflappable. You just plug on, you just be the captain of the ship, you brought us home. And I realized, I really hadn't thought of it that way, or I wasn't conscious of that in the moment. But it made me realize, again, what does it means to be an officiant? It's not simply officiating the ceremony. What does it mean to officiate? It's not simply the words that you're saying. It's that you are there to be the rock and the guide, and you aren't captain of the ship, and it is as Officiant as your job to bring these people from point A to point z.


Clint  16:45  
I agree. And you know, quite honestly, they were lucky that they had you. I mean, really, that's the way I feel about that stuff. Would you describe these things and you? And then you explain how you decided to handle this situation? I always think that couples and the families are so lucky that they had you. The thing about the mom, I have to admit, I don't really understand certain dynamics between like a mother and a daughter. 
Now, I did a wedding. And I got called two days before the wedding. Today's Tuesday. So just a few days ago. I got called on Thursday. Apparently the officiant that was scheduled, became ill and took a covid test. But they weren't going to get the results until after the wedding day. And they thought, okay, we better go to plan B. We better find another officiant. And so when the event planner called me, I said what's their emotional connection to the other officiant? I ended up talking to the bride about a half hour later. And she said no, we had hired somebody because we wanted a professional. And I said, Okay, because I would have felt bad if like a personal friend or a family member or whatever. I wanted to be sensitive to that situation. But here's the moment that really struck me when it becomes that dynamic between, like you were talking about, a mother of the bride and that sort of thing. 
So, we're lined up, there's only about 25 people there all spaced and we’re at a golf course and it’s beautiful, like terrace that overlooks the course. It just stunning. And I do what I always do, which is I go check with the bride because the couple did not show up until pretty close to start time. And I did get a chance to meet the groom. But then I met the bride for the first time face to face. She looked great, and we were off to the side. Nobody could see us and her dad, she said something about her dad had to go check on something. And so he walked away. And I just started to shoot the breeze. And she mentioned that she just had a conversation with her mom, and she's a little rattled. I say what happened or something along the lines of and she just started to talk about Oh, my mom. And she didn't go into detail. And I will admit the first person I thought of was you JP. But I had to make a call. I had to in my mind. I'm thinking I am really curious. I really want to know what happened. I want to know what the mom said. Apparently the bride thought that it was inappropriate and apparently this is something that the two of them have been through 5 billion times. It's just that this is her wedding day. And so I thought I really want to know but then I looked at the bride and I could tell on her face. She really wanted to put that behind her. She wanted to compartmentalize and not Think about that, because she's about to walk up the aisle and get married. And I thought, Okay, I need to shut up. I need to make this all go away. Let's redirect. And so I just I did what you do to a five year old, I, you know, they're upset about something and you redirect them, you start taking their attention over on something else. So I just started talking about something else that was going to happen in the wedding. And, I could see the relief of the bride in regards to Oh, thank you for giving me something else to think about. Because I don't want to think about what just happened. And that was hard. Because normally I would let people vent. But we literally were two minutes away from walking down the aisle. And so I thought, okay, now's not the time, and I have to put what I want aside. And, everything worked out great. But what is that dynamic? between a mother and a daughter, I don't understand.


JP Reynolds  20:58  
You’ve got a wife,


Clint  21:00  
I have a wife And I have a daughter.


JP Reynolds  21:01  
You can go into a zoom Breakout Room afterwards. And you're gonna talk to those two?


Clint  21:11  
Well, now, they're best friends. The teenage years are rough. Yeah, but now my daughter's 21. And now she is my wife's champion. She like, oh, god forbid that I do anything, or say anything that she thinks isn't worthy of my mom or of her mom, my wife. Because she comes to her defense and they laugh. So I really I don't get it. I don't understand. I'm really happy that the two of them are going through this phase. But that thing with the bride and her mom, boy.
And you know what I'm talking about right?


JP Reynolds  21:54  
Oh, yeah. I love it. It's like to two guys sitting at the bar. Having a beer. shooting the breeze? I'm loving it. Yeah, man.


Clint  22:18  
Oh, my gracious.
Yeah, I think I agree. Listener, if you are expecting another episode next week? Well, I'm sorry. But in America, it's Thanksgiving week.


JP Reynolds  22:34  
But in America not in Italy.


Clint  22:36  
They're thankful for number 98 every day. And so we're gonna take the week off next week and we will see you in December. And that's it. Remember JP’S books are in the Amazon store and in the Kindle store in Amazon. For communications coaching that website is thebusinessofconfidence.com. His wedding website is JPRweddings.com. Mine is ReverendClint.com or ClintHufft.com for all the things that I do. All of our episodes are archived on our website. It's weddingceremonypodcast.com, the most recent one is at the top. That also is where the Email button is. And that way you can send us a note. ask us a question. Tell us a story. We love that. Thank you again to Christopher out in New York for telling us some of the stories. I think that's awesome that we will bring up in a later episode. You can subscribe to our podcast if you want that makes it so much easier. Just go to the Apple podcast store, look up wedding ceremony podcast, click on subscribe. And every time we put a new episode into the podcast world, it'll automatically come to you and it's also where you can leave us a review if you'd like to. That's one of the ways that people discover us. Thank you again to the amazing thank you again to the incredible musicians that play our theme music that Dacapoplayers.com. That's it for this episode of the wedding ceremony podcast. This is Clint and I'll be half of JP. We will see you next time.

#293
Clint  0:00  
Hey everybody, welcome to the wedding ceremony podcast. We talk about anything and everything that has to do with wedding ceremonies. This is episode number 293, recorded on Tuesday, November 3, 2020. My name is Clint Hufft. And with me is the one and only JP Reynolds.


JP Reynolds  0:18  
It's good to be with you, Clint.


Clint  0:22  
And it is good to be with you as well. JP, do you think you really are the one and only JP Reynolds?


JP Reynolds  0:30  
Oh, you know, that is so funny that you should ask that question. Because, number one, I had a JP Reynolds on LinkedIn look me up. Okay. And it turns out, he's like a musician. And number two, I'm doing a wedding this weekend. And the groom's name is JP. 


Clint
Oh, no kidding. 


JP
So I know, I'm not the only JP Reynolds,


Clint  0:56  
It probably stands for other names than what yours does? I'm guessing.


JP Reynolds  1:02  
Um, yes. And I forget what his names are. But when you are JP, you don't deal with names. The JP’S just deal with the initials.


Clint  1:16  
You know how you the guy on LinkedIn reached out to you because he is also JP Reynolds, right? Yeah. So, many years ago. I mean, a long time ago, when I was more involved in the entertainment industry, I had a stage name. It was my middle name. So my stage name was Clint Richards. And I had that for a long time. One day, here's what I did. I looked up in the phonebook, this tells you how long ago it was, I looked up in the phonebook just to see if there were any other Clint Richards because my legal name is obviously Clint Hufft.


JP Reynolds  1:51  
Right. Allegedly, allegedly.


Clint  1:54  
Yeah. Go with that under the pretense of the podcast. So as long as I'm in my bunker, I think I'm safe. I found one nearby, and I called the number and a woman answered the phone. And I said, Hi, is Clint Richards there? And she says, he doesn't live here! And she hung up the phone. And so I thought, Okay, wait a minute, something is not right. And so I called her back. And I said, before you hang up, my name is also Clint Richards. And she says, Oh, my gosh, it is? I said, Yeah, that's my stage name. And I'm in the nightclub business. And I do all these other things. And I just wanted to say if anybody is calling looking for me, it's because they only know me by that name. And here's my my number if you want forward it. And she almost started crying. She said, Oh, my gosh, thank you so much. We've been getting these calls from these women, and it's just breaking my heart. Why do they want to talk to my boyfriend? I don't understand.


JP  2:54  
Haha.


Clint  2:58  
And so I made the world a little happier that day.


JP Reynolds  3:04  
Oh, Clint. I know. But as a New Yorker, I think you alleviated her pain, but I still think the guy was cheating on her.


Clint  3:17  
Oh, well, I had to, what do you call it? I kick the dust off my shoes. And I washed my hands of the situation and went on with my life. I've done what I was supposed to do.


JP Reynolds  3:29  
Clint Richards. Yes.


Clint  3:31  
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it kind of had a nice little roll to it, because it was my middle name. And it was easy to for me to remember.


JP Reynolds  3:38  
I am just sitting here like rocking back and forth because there's so much I want to say and I'm not gonna say any of it. I'm just gonna be a polite podcast host.


Clint  3:56  
I can see in the future when we are not recording and perhaps a beverage is shared. That we will have that conversation.


JP Reynolds  4:04  
You know it. I will not forget this Clint.


Clint  4:09  
What have I done?


JP 4:10  
Mm hmm.


Clint  4:13  
I should acknowledge that today is election day here in the United States of America. And so by the time I post this something will have happened. And hopefully something will have happened and then maybe if it's relevant in a future episode, we'll give everybody an update but I have a feeling it's such a big deal, The entire world is paying attention to this. The calendar also tells me that this last weekend was Halloween and it was one of those rare times where Halloween was on a Saturday. I did not have a wedding. And you told me before we started recording that you also did not have a wedding on Halloween.


JP Reynolds  4:56  
I have only in all of the years of officiating weddings. I only had one wedding on Halloween.


Clint  5:06  
Did they dress up like in costume and stuff?


JP Reynolds  5:09  
They did.


Clint  5:10  
Oh, did you have fun?


JP Reynolds  5:13  
It was in a nice venue. It was here in LA and it was at a kind of a happening hotel. And the two things that I remember about the wedding was one sweet couple. The groom. His family was Italian American. I will respectfully say in the most stereotypical of ways. His mother was a widow. And he was the only son. And he had three or four sisters. And he was the youngest. So he was treated as the prince, the Crown Prince of the family. Yes. And the phrase, mama's boy was invented to describe the relationship this young man had with his mother. I am not sure that I have ever seen a mother look more unhappy at a wedding than this woman.


Clint  6:30  
Oh, no.


JP Reynolds  6:32  
Because this hussy was taking her boy away from her. 


Clint
Oh my gosh, it's a real thing. You saw? 


JP
Oh, yes. Oh, yes. And they did share with me that there was a lot of tension. Because the mother did not want him to ever get married. Except to her. And it was a costume and all the guests were asked to wear costume. And they did and they really, like people invested time and money in their costumes. This was a real costume affair. And the mother dressed like Mary Todd Lincoln, because she was all dressed in black like the widow's weeds. You know, you heard that. And I could not look at her in the ceremony. I could not look at her in the ceremony. It was just like, Okay, ma'am. This is a wedding. This is not a funeral. But that was a very unhappy mother. And she would have been unhappy no matter what female was standing next to her, bro.


Clint  7:45  
Yeah, that's the feeling I'm getting based on what you've said, Oh my gosh.


JP Reynolds  7:49  
Now the bride and groom dressed in costume as a bride and groom.


Clint  7:59  
Excuse me, that's cheating. That's not fair.


JP Reynolds  8:03  
But the other thing why this wedding is actually near and dear to my heart is because this is the wedding where the rings were presented by the bride's cousin. So I would now ask for the presentation of the rings and music started and the bride's cousin appeared in the back of the room. It was held indoors at a ballroom. She appeared at the back of the ballroom and proceeded down the aisle doing a belly dance with a sword balanced on her head.


Clint  8:47  
Oh, yes. That was the Halloween wedding. Oh, my gracious.


JP Reynolds  8:53  
Yes, yes.


Clint  8:54  
Yes. With a sword balanced on her head. A belly dance. Oh, my gracious.


JP Reynolds  9:01  
So every Halloween this couple they do pop into my head. I have no idea what happened to them or to the mother or to the belly dancer. But ever since that wedding, whenever I meet with a couple is always a little part of my heart to thinks maybe today I'm speaking with a couple who will top the belly dancer. But it's never happened. No one has ever topped a belly dancer.


Clint  9:36  
The bar is too high. It's too high. JP what can they do? So on Saturday night, Halloween night. Things were a little subdued around the house. And it's about well, I want to say nine o'clock at night and I get a call from my sister. This does not happen on a regular basis. She is an officiant up in Reno, Nevada. And she has a very different type of business in that she doesn't do a lot of them. But what she does is very eclectic. She also has been participatory in Burning Man for many years, and has married a lot of people at Burning Man. And a number of years ago, we had her on the on the podcast. And I asked her about some of those weddings. And that was entertaining. So she calls me and I said, Hello, and the first thing she says to me is, what would you do If the only light you had to read the ceremony was a tiki torch? What would you do? And, the full moon. Because not only was it Halloween, there was a full moon out. It was a blue moon. And I'm sorry, for those of you not familiar with that term. It was the second full moon of the month. And so she said the only thing I had in terms of light was the full moon and a tiki torch. I said, How did it go? She said, Well, we got through it. But it was rough. And in fact, they didn't tell her This is the only light we're going to have. And people were dressed up in costume and that kind of stuff. But then they spring it on her at the last second. And this is the the deal. And so she had to reposition the torch and just that kind of stuff. That seems to happen to her a lot where she shows up And then they'll say Oh, and by the way we’ve added that. And it's something that doesn't seem to work fluidly with the ceremony. But, she saw her way through it. And then by coincidence, I talked to an event planner that I know, and she worked last Saturday for a wedding, a Halloween wedding and they went all out. They dressed in costume. The backdrop was lots of spiderwebs. But the backdrop also said “till death”.


JP Reynolds  12:18  
In the age of COVID.


Clint  12:20  
Yes. Oh, that's Yeah. And that cake was a bloody cake. I haven't seen an image of it. That's just the way she described it. It was a bloody cake. The coasters for the drinks were skulls. And they had a dessert bar setup. And all of the desert was in containers that were also skulls. And the wedding was outdoors. But it was it was all in in terms of the Halloween thing. And you know what? I applaud that couple. If they say we want to get married on Halloween, and oh my gosh, look at this. It's gonna be on a Saturday. Oh, my gosh. And then they went all in. I think that's awesome.


JP Reynolds  13:08  
Right. I think that is I think there should be a law that says if you're getting married on Halloween, it has to be costume.


Clint  13:20  
There should be a law?


JP Reynolds  13:22  
Yeah, that says, if you want to get married on Halloween, you have to wear a costume. And it's like, you're doing it on Halloween. You got to go all in.


Clint  13:31  
Okay, yeah, but your couple with the belly dancer, they decided to dress as a bride and a groom. I still think that that's just cheating. If they made everybody else get a costume.


JP Reynolds  13:41  
Oh, what do you know, somebody is a stickler. Technicality there. They were in costume.


Clint  13:53  
I just imagine the people that say it's a costume party. Oh my gosh, I don't have a costume. What are we going to do? And then they have to go and try to figure out a costume and maybe they spent money to buy a costume or whatever it is.


JP Reynolds  14:06  
These people did. These were really good looking costumes. Yeah, I mean, people spent a lot. It was clear that people spend a lot of time and money and thought on how they were going to show up for this.


Clint  14:25  
Was the couple just regular bride and groom or were they some themed bride and groom?


JP Reynolds  14:30  
No, they um they were just sweet. Regular bride and groom. I mean, I don't think they were in the entertainment industry. It was not a reality show wedding. It was just a couple who liked halloween, they they got married at like I called In a four star venue, so it was it was all elegant surroundings. Okay?


Clint  15:10  
I guess. You know what it could be that they were thinking to themselves we're going to be looking at these pictures for the rest of our lives and we want to look at them as where we got married and not as a costume party. Now the reason this is interesting to me is because the very first wedding I ever officiated, the very first one, the couple dressed up as if it was the Victorian age. So she had ringlets in her hair and she had the big like, fluffy dress thingy. And then he wore the old kind of tuxedo with an ascot and they asked me if I would wear a robe and a barristers wig. You know, the white wig? And I said, Sure. And, that's what we did.


JP Reynolds  16:00  
We still have that. Wait, I think. I mean, I've seen you at networking events where in that wig?


Clint  16:07  
Well, sure. I want to get my money's worth.


JP Reynolds  16:14  
You know what, okay, for those listening, it’s just dopey JP here. I've not seen this man in a wig. I could use a wig, not Clint.


Clint  16:21  
I was gonna say, people give me a little bit more respect. With that. Let me tell you. I was trying to think of if there was something else that in that wedding, no, I think that was it, I think, and they didn't expect anybody else to dress up. That was just their gig. And then the wedding party and that kind of stuff. That was a long, long time ago. And I never talked to them, and asked them why, where did this come from? However, there was something that was really cool. And I'm so glad that happened to my very first wedding. Where I said to them, is there anything you want to do, and I will not surprise you. So there's not going to be any surprises. We're going to have it all figured out before we start. And they liked that approach. And then, as we're about to walk out, the music plays for the groomsmen entrance. I said, here we go. And then groom said, wait. And he remembered something at the last second and he wrote it down. And then that was going to be something that he was going to do for her. So we get to that part of the ceremony. And I looked at her and I said, he has a surprise for you. Or no, we have a surprise for you. And she looked at me with that panic look in her face, I guess she was one of those people that really didn't like surprises. But then I turned the mic, I just pointed the mic towards him. And he read this thing that they had both discovered in some fantasy novel, you know, like Lord of the Rings, or one of those type of deals that the both of them really loved. And they shared it with each other. And it was this thing where two people fall in love and one of them professes his love to the other character. And he remembered it. And he wrote it down by memory. And at that moment, he said that to her. And it was awesome and hit her like a ton of bricks and tears and it was fantastic. And I thought okay, everybody gets an opportunity to do that if they want to from now on. It was so cool.


JP Reynolds  18:24  
Oh, that's lovely. Yeah, that's lovely.


Clint  18:27  
Well, oh, and I guess I should mention the one time that I dressed up like Elvis.
Now, I know there are some officiants where dressing up as like their gig. But that was the only time.


JP Reynolds  18:47  
Were you in Vegas. Where were you for that wedding?


Clint  18:50  
No, no, I was in Southern California. And coincidentally enough, the groom from my very first wedding, owned an entertainment company, a DJ, and he called me and said my couple is looking for an officiant who will do it like Elvis, who will dress up like Elvis. And he said the first person I thought of was you. So obviously this is like, really early in my career as an officiant. And I said, Sure, I'll do it. And I said they have to pay for everything but I'll do it. Absolutely. And here's what I discovered. We're almost out of time but let me share this. What I discovered is another thing that has influenced me ever since I did it sounding like Elvis and I think I may have said maybe an Elvis joke or something that Elvis would say. And then when we got to the vows, the ring exchange and the vows, then I noticed there was a complete shift in the energy in the room, because it was light hearted and it was fun and all that kind of stuff. But then when we got to that actual moment, Now we're actually getting married, everything changed. And it got serious and it got romantic and it got intense. And I thought this is really important. Because people can want to have fun and perhaps do something quirky for their wedding. But because we're human beings when we get to the nitty gritty, it's for real and honest. Right? Does that make sense?


JP Reynolds  20:27  
Oh, absolutely. Absolutely.


Clint  20:31  
Yeah, I never forgot that. And I tell people if they're thinking about doing something quirky or out of the ordinary, just be aware that when you get to that moment, it's going to get real. So just don't be surprised. You can have all the fun you want. But when it gets down to, will you and I do and I take you, that changes the whole gig. So, just be prepared for that.


JP Reynolds  20:57  
Well, I think once again, words of wisdom from Clint Richards.


Clint 21:05  
Look me up.


JP Reynolds  21:09  
Now listen, folks may have tuned in today hoping or expecting us to be talking to a special guest. Our special guest had a last minute hiccup and wasn't able to join us. And so hopefully, next week, or very soon, thereafter, we will have our special guest.


Clint  21:36  
Yes, absolutely. And yeah. I'm just really excited. I really am. And I you know, hiccups happen. So, it was good that in a way that we got to talk about Halloween, in Halloween.


JP Reynolds  21:51  
No, no, no Clint. I think it was good that it worked out so that we could learn. Clint Hufft is related to Clint Richards.


Clint  22:03  
Yeah.


JP Reynolds  22:04  
Yeah, Halloween stories were just a nice little bonus. The heart of this episode Is the Clint Richards reveal.


Clint  22:18  
Oh, I’m a little nervous about that. That good drink We're gonna share. I'm a little nervous about that.


JP Reynolds  22:24  
Yes. You know what? He had been with me for 300 episodes. And he thought, Oh, why not? Why not as we approach 300? Come clean. My criminal background.


Clint  22:50  
Oh, man. Oh, man. Well, it'll be interesting to see what comments we get on this episode. Oh, my goodness. 
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