Hi, everybody, welcome to the wedding ceremony podcast. We talk about anything and everything that has to do with wedding ceremonies. This is episode number 324, recorded on Tuesday, July the 20th 2021. My name is Clint Hufft. And with me is a gentleman who just told me he's got something to share the one and only JP Reynolds.
JP Reynolds 0:24
Oh, Clint. I do.
Yes, you do. JP is an accomplished author. His books are in the Amazon store and in the Kindle store in Amazon. He is a communications expert. thebusinessofconfidence.com is that website, his wedding website is JPRweddings.com. Mine is ReverendClint.com or ClintHufft.com, for all of the things that I do. I did not have a wedding this past weekend. But you did. And you teased me. Right before we hit the record button. Oh, my gosh, I'm so excited. So hit it.
JP Reynolds 1:08
You know, first of all, here we are the next to the last podcast. And if there was one wedding that could sum up 324 podcasts, I think the wedding I'm about to tell you is the one to sum it all up.
Oh my gosh, let's end right there and let all the listeners just go nuts saying no. That's the cliffhanger of all cliffhangers.
JP Reynolds 1:42
Right, here it is. So it was 150 person wedding at a four or five star resort. The couple booked me six weeks ago. Even though they had been planning this wedding for quite some time, they had forgotten to get an officiant. And we had only one meeting. It was on zoom. And it was while they were driving in their car.
It didn't have the same gravity is most of those zoom meetings.
JP Reynolds 2:26
No. I said to them, I said, I feel like I'm James Corden with his carpool karaoke. And they love the image and they said they loved James Corden. So I had a carpool karaoke meeting with them for about 30-35 minutes. Um, sweet couple, fun couple. Whatever.
There's so many wonderful moments about this wedding. Okay, let's start with, in talking with the groom as an acknowledgment to his family, they’re Mexican Catholic, I had suggested that if his parents have a cord or I call it the lasso, that it would be lovely to have his parents draped them with the lasso and then I would give a blessing. They love that they do. I arrived at the venue I actually run into the parents by accident as we were walking to the actual ceremony site, had a lovely conversation explained how it was going to take place. They had the lasso that they used to their wedding 37 years ago.
JP Reynolds 3:59
I just said it's like so heartfelt. I'm so blah, blah blah to the event planner, blah blah blah. scope out the groom, right and get to the bride. She's in the bridal bedroom. Dressed beautiful. And I happen to notice that the now on the bed is the lasso that belong to the groom's parents and a second lasso.
And, Clint, which lasso do you think was prettier?
Which lasso would look better on the beautiful dress?
JP Reynolds 4:59
Which lasso would look good on instagram? 15 minutes before the start of the ceremony, the bride announced to the parents, I won't be using your lasso.
Oh my gosh.
JP Reynolds 5:16
Okay, so now we have good old fashioned drama. And the event planner is a planner that I’ve done a lot of work with. She just said to me, You need to talk to them.
You mean talk them into using the parents lasso?
Oh, well, well just talk to them in generic meaning anybody on the property who would listen to me to resolve this situation because you can't have people look, I mean, the groom's mother looked like my Irish grandmother, even though she was Mexican. And my Irish grandmother was one of the most miserable looking people I have ever met.
Oh my gosh, no.
JP Reynolds 6:05
Okay, this for me was not happy. Not happy. Anyway. To make a long story short, it was resolved and the bride agreed to use the lasso that belonged to the parents.
Oh, thank goodness.
Okay, but that's just the beginning of the wedding. I am preset Standing at the place the site and the Quartet is stringing away and crouched next to me is one of the photographers. Now this photographer is really hip and happening, kind of had a Eurotrash vibe about him. It was just you know, he was cool. Or, at least he thought he was cool. It's me standing there with him crouching next to me. The ceremony procession hasn't started yet. And suddenly, some man from the first row on the bride’s side out loud says, “you got here really early today!”. Now, I have no idea who he's talking to. Okay. He continues, he says, I saw you. I saw you in the hotel earlier. You took pictures of everybody in the hotel. He's talking to the photographer. Well, if we figured out he was talking to the photographer, and the guy was so flummoxed, he was so because it's like, we are seconds away from the start of the procession. And now you've got this guy who's in a loud voice half yelling thing. I saw you in the hotel taking photos and everybody today.
It's like what do you do with this?
It's just like so much for your Eurotrash Look, buddy. That's not really helping it now is it?
Now the procession starts and the groom looks really debonair white dinner jacket, and he gets to me and the eyes are brimming over with tears.
JP Reynolds 8:53
yeah. And I know I've got a crier on my hands. Right. And I love a man who cries. I just put me on episode 324. Let me reiterate. I don't think there's anything better, more beautiful, sexier than a man crying for reasons of joy. However, Did I ever tell you why my mother married my father?
That was one of the greatest, non sequiturs of all time. No, please tell me.
JP Reynolds 9:34
Okay, my mother one time out of the blue said to me. You know, I like a man who's a man. But not too much man. That's why I married your father. My brother and I have spent our entire lives figuring out what does it mean to be not too much man? So, I share this with you because hey, it's Episode 324. Let's share, all out there.
JP Reynolds 10:02
And also because I realized I like a man who's a crier, but not too much crier. And I'm thinking this guy may be a too much crier kind of kind of guy. But so now we get the groomsmen coming to the groom. They look you know how some groomsmen just look so good in a tux.
JP Reynolds 10:25
I mean, this group is this squad. They looked like they were MI6 agents. They were distractingly handsome. Then the bridesmaids process and they are distractingly beautiful. They are in dresses that's like it's just that just kind of rock this venue. I mean, these people are serious. I mean, there's no messing around.
Bride comes. And so we we do our thing. And now it's time for the Vows. Now I had said to them, you must write out your vows. I said, Please write out your vows. So the groom begins. And he says the bride's name, and then just chokes.
Was that the first word out of his mouth was her name?
JP Reynolds 11:34
First words out of his mouth was, let's say Mary, and he just chokes and he puts his head down, his hand up to his forehead and it's just, it's like, oh, yeah, man. People are going to put an extra $50 into the envelope. This is what they want. This is, let it go. Right? So he composes himself and he begins and few sentences in he choked. Okay.
And suddenly one of the groomsmen runs up, slaps him on the butt and says, you can do this bro. Back to his place. So it's like it's cute. Whenever he continues, right? Few sentences, he chokes. Suddenly, another groomsmen runs up and slaps him on the butt. You got this, man, you got this. Well, the upshot of it all is, how did the vows proceed? It was four sentences choke, butt slap. Now, first of all, I'd be curious to know. I mean, have you ever done a ceremony with butt slapping?
No, I have not.
JP Reynolds 12:59
I thought you were gonna say that. All right. And, I'm standing. And I'm thinking, I know for a fact that several of our listeners have in the recent months, written beautiful articles on like, ways to personalize handfasting. And I'm thinking, I should be writing an article on 10 ways to personalize butt slapping in your ceremony.
This is like I’m thinking, where did this come from? And I'm thinking, do I need my buddies to weep butt slap? I don't think I really answered like you and me when we meet at a networking event. We don't like slap each other's butt.
Doesn't mean I haven't had the impulse. But no, we never have.
JP Reynolds 13:46
I got it. So now now it gets to a point in the vows where his hand drops. That's holding the vows and he just looks get ready for this one. He looks and he says babe. Ah, shite. I love you. That's all I can say. Now he did not say the word shite. He's just a real word.
It's like could we do an instant replay? Did you just say what I think you just said? He holds up the vows. “These are just words. These are words. What do they mean? They mean nothing because what that means is I love you babe.” I'm thinking if you do not get back to script, I will slap you and it won't be on the butt.
So then I'm worried because I'm thinking, Okay, she's gonna cry. And are her bridesmaids gonna start running up and slapping her?
That would be awesome.
Because at this point, I don't know what's happening. I mean, anything can happen. So all right, we move on, they put the lasso on at the end. that all is what the now you may kiss, all right? So sets out like that, okay?
And I'm thinking, Oh, I'm thinking I can't wait to talk with you.
And then I find the groom to congratulate him. And he looks at me. And he comes over and he gives me a hug. And he's crying. And suddenly he lays his head on my chest and says, How did you do with JP? How did you do it?
I'm thinking, I wonder if a groom ever laid his head on Clint’s chest?
I am thinking, Okay, dude. It's like you're married. It's over between us. What we had is done. It's like, Well, how do I do it? Yeah, and it's good question. How do I do it since I only spent 35 minutes with you in the car to put this ceremony together.
But now, okay. There's, it's like sweet, laughing, if only Clint Were here to take a picture posted on Instagram, blah, blah, blah.
All right now I think done. All you need is to get the best man to sign the license. I’m saying goodbye to the event planner, said goodbye to the bride. Now I'm looking for the best man. I can't find him. Of course. Eventually, I find him back at the ceremony site. And pictures, the groom is taking pictures with his squad and get the best man to sign and the groom says to me, JP, could you stick around for a moment? I gotta ask a question. And I'm thinking, even though you say yes, the asking question thinking, Well, since he's wondering how I did it, maybe he wants to tip me, you know? Sure. Let me be practical here. So stick around. And then it's like, I realized that I'm just gonna be held captive here for hours. So I said, Bro, I gotta like, bro, bro, I gotta go. I listen, come here, come here, and he walks walks me off to the side. He says, what do you do when somebody doesn't talk to you?
Oh, no, he wanted counseling. Yes. At that moment, yes.
JP Reynolds 18:10
I said, What do you mean? He says, Well, I don't know what I did. But somebody is mad at me and they won't talk to me. I said, Who is it? He says it's somebody. And I'm thinking, Okay, you know, it's just not the time, man. We just can't, it's just. I said, Look, there's something you need to understand. I said, this is a beautiful wedding. And I know that you are spending a lot of money on this wedding. I said, and so what you have to understand is, no happy occasion is happy until someone is miserable.
You said that?
Yes. So the fact that somebody is miserable right now and not talking to you, that's a sign that this is a good wedding. This is a sign that things are going according to plan. I say respond to that. And I said, is it you just have a fabulous time. And you don't worry about that person because they really deep down are happy. And the only reason why they're not talking to you is because they love you. Okay, there folks, is all of the wisdom that we can distill in 324 episodes.
So when we say at the beginning and at the the end of every single episode that you are a communications expert. This is proof the proof is in the pudding. This is why we call JP a communications expert. No happy occasion is truly happy until someone is miserable.
JP Reynolds 20:08
You know, what could you say in that moment? There was no way to have a meaningful conversation. And it was basically I said, don't let anybody ruin your joy today.
JP Reynolds 20:23
I mean, that is what I also said.
Did you get a feeling that…
I got a lot of feelings.
Did the idea pop into your head that it could have been either the bride or his parents?
JP Reynolds 20:40
Yes, but the parents gave a very warm embrace to the bride when they put lasso over her. Mm hmm. And the bride seem to respond. So I eliminated them as suspects.
Okay. All right, very good.
JP Reynolds 21:03
Now, there was a reading, the reader had not been told that he was going to do a reading. And so when I approached him, and asked if he needed my copy, he said that he didn't know he was doing a reading and he didn't feel comfortable doing your reading without proper preparation. So another friend was recruited 15 minutes before the ceremony started to do a reading. Now I would I would have the initial reader as a person of interest.
Wait, what does that mean?
Well, that reader was upset that he hadn't been told ahead of time. Oh, that he was going to do the reading. Okay. And that might be grounds for not talking.
Right. Okay. Maybe?
JP Reynolds 22:09
Yeah. You know, in order to have grounds for not talking you don't need a crucial reason. As a matter of fact, the flimsier The reason for not talking, the better.
Really, that works the best?
JP Reynolds 22:25
Yeah, like, You raised your eyebrow at me. Why?
That's it. No more for you.
JP Reynolds 22:36
You know, we forget, I think you and I forget that we've done so many of these things that, well, let me speak for myself, there's just an air of anything could happen. And we're just going to kind of figure it out as we go, right. It's kind of like, you just kind of roll with the punches and you figure things out, and somehow you get to the end of the ceremony and hopefully everybody's happy. But the other people this is like life or death. I think I told you about the guy that was suffering from anxiety. I mean, such anxiety that he had flopsweat and so whatever responsibility he had in the ceremony was immediately taken from him. And same type of deal. Well, who can we get to do that thing? Well, let's get Bob. Okay. Hey, Bob. Right, all that kind of stuff. And, for me, it was just kind of this is cool. That's all right. Well, so now Bob's doing it. I don't care. Right. Right. Refer other people. It's just like, Oh, my gosh, it's so serious.
JP Reynolds 23:30
Right. Right. Right. No, I think that it is a form of improv. You know, once you as an officiant once your feet step onto the property. Anything Goes? Anything's possible. You have entered in the escape room.
The wedding ceremony escape room.
JP Reynolds 24:01
Which I do want to create.
Absolutely. Oh my gosh, that's our new business.
JP Reynolds 24:08
Yes, right. Right. Right. Right. Right. Right.
The curio shop is shutting down.The escape room. Look for it. I love it. The next to last episode, we have come up with a nugget that is awesome. The wedding ceremony escape room. Oh my gosh. That's so good.
JP Reynolds 24:33
All right, Clint.
I have to be really careful who I raise my eyebrows now from now on.
JP Reynolds 24:38
I'll wait until the next networking event Clint.
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