Hey everybody, welcome to the wedding ceremony podcast. We talk about anything and everything that has to do with wedding ceremonies. This is episode number 304, recorded on Tuesday, March the second 2021. My name is Clint Hufft. And with me is a gentleman that well, he's back again, the one and only JP Reynolds.
JP Reynolds 0:22
Yeah, I'm back.
As if, as if you had really, really gone anywhere, actually, you did go away for a little while. Yeah, you did.
JP Reynolds 0:31
I was with you last week.
I know. But that was so long ago, JP, let's face it.
JP Reynolds 0:38
Okay. Well, it is because yes, it feels Yes. Okay, keep on going.
Okay. JP is an accomplished author. His books are in the Amazon store and in the Kindle store in Amazon. He is a communications expert. Thebusinessofconfidence.com, is that website. His wedding website is JPRweddings.com. Mine is ReverendClint.com or ClintHufft.com For all of the things that I do. jp, tell us about your wedding.
JP Reynolds 1:10
Well, I had my first wedding of 2021 on Friday, and it was a good old fashioned micro wedding. The couple plus about 12,13 people. And it just reminded me of how much I enjoyed the intimacy of these weddings. You know, it's just a very surprisingly delightful experience. And the groom was an utter sweetheart. You know how everybody has their own personality. And with some weddings, it's more. Okay, let's do it. And then with other couples, you do make a connection of a little deeper emotional level. And if I was hugging people these days, I would have given him a big hug. He says to me, just Oh, he's so sweet. He's, first of all, he's 41 years old and had never been married.
JP Reynolds 2:34
And, his bride, is his wife now, is 14, 15 years younger, and she had never been married. And they were so grateful that they had waited for each other, that they had discovered each other. And, so that sense of gratitude, and that sense of gratefulness, just permeated the entire celebration. I realize every couple is grateful, but for this couple, there was that sense of I didn't think this was going to happen, or it shouldn't have happened or it shouldn't have happened with you. And, the bride, their personalities are just very extroverted, larger than life. And she began her personal words by saying something along the lines of it's true that when I first saw you, my heart did not skip a beat.
That's a great opening line.
JP Reynolds 3:57
Because they are in some respects, certainly beginning with the age difference, etc, etc. And that phrase, you win over your bride in many respects, he won her over and as she won him over, it was just lovely. It was just so, the emotions were so raw, and he said to me, I'm going to be a hot mess. I don't know how I'm gonna do this. Have you ever had a hot mess? Oh, that's so sweet Victor. If you knew who I had. I just was thoroughly charmed by them, and there was just a real sweetness. I also think it's interesting how with a micro wedding if you had a set budget going into your wedding, your big wedding would be looking different from your micro wedding. And this micro wedding was just so beautiful. And they they had a wonderful event planner, wonderful event company and it was magic. It was a magical, magical setting.
There's a couple of things that you've said that I would like to respond.
JP Reynolds 5:50
Oh, please. Yes, jump in. Jump in.
When the groom said I'm going to be a hot mess. I don't think he realized how happy that made you.
Ha ha. Oh, it's so true.
Please be a hot mess. What's beyond hot? Can you be a hotter mess?
JP Reynolds 6:10
Exactly. Oh, Clint is so bad. But yes, I thought oh, I'm swooning. Oh, here you go, bro. Be as messy as, you think you're a hot mess now? Wait until I'm done with you.
That's exactly right. See? There you go. That's the JP special. Oh, yes. Now the second thing is the age of your couple. I can identify with that completely. Because I didn't even meet my wife till I was 44. And we went to lunch for our first date Exactly 23 years ago today. And we got married Exactly 19 years ago, today.
The reason I identify so much with your couple is because I was 44 when I met my wife. And so four years later I was 48 when we got married. And I completely identify with and my attitude was that it was just right for me. And apparently just right for Debra. She had never been married. I had never been married. I knew. Okay, please understand. I was in the nightclub business for 15 years. And I knew that I was not going to get married until I was 100% ready to get married. And then I was really lucky because I was on an airplane and I looked across the aisle and there she was. So that whole thing about gratitude. And what's fascinating is today we're gonna go to lunch at the place where we had our first date, hopefully.
Yeah, we've done it every single year since although a year ago, most of the time I have this big event in Columbus, Ohio that I go to the first weekend of every March. But because of the pandemic, it's been postponed. And so this is very rare that we're going to be together on our our anniversary, because many times I'm traveling. So we're gonna see if the restaurant has outdoor dining. And then we're on our wedding day. I can also identify with the whole charm of the micro wedding, because we kind of had a micro wedding. We had a small wedding with about 30 people at this beautiful place overlooking the ocean. And then we all went to lunch. And this particular place, we found a bakery. And they made brownies in the shape of a heart on a stick covered with chocolate. And that was just like I don't know, that was just like perfect for us. So we ordered those special and that's what we had for our dessert instead of a wedding cake. For our wedding day dessert we had. So this morning, I made brownies and they're in the shape of a heart. And I bought the chocolate and I tested this a couple of weeks ago for Valentine's Day. So the kids are all fired up. Because every year we tell them about the heart shaped brownies covered in chocolate. And so we tested it a couple of weeks ago with cookies and it was amazing. And so later today I will cover those things in chocolate. I bought the special melting baking chocolate, you melt it in the microwave, you slather it all over the brownies that are in the shape of a heart. I put sticks in them. They’re like on a popsicle stick and I'm going to put them in the freezer. Then tonight, after my beautiful bride and I have our anniversary dinner, we will come home and the four of us will celebrate with brownies in the shape of a heart on a stick covered in chocolate.
JP Reynolds 10:13
I know, I'm so excited.
JP Reynolds 10:19
First of all, we should remind listeners again, we really don't know what we're going to be talking about from week to week. And just how lovely that that story of my first wedding of 2021 dovetails so nicely with this the story of your meeting and your dating and your wedding.
Well, it also dovetails into what we've discovered with the pandemic and how elopements and micro weddings have become our favorites. And we discovered that 19 years ago, because on the Saturday, we had our wedding day, and we had it with that small group of people. And we had a great lunch at this beautiful place overlooking the ocean. But then, the very next day, we had a bigger reception where we invited everybody else that was going to be on the guest list. And we had it in the backyard of this neighbor that had this beautiful backyard and we hired the caterer and we hired the baker for a wedding cake. And we did that whole thing. And it was okay. But we realized almost immediately that we didn't need that. And I think that a lot of couples are going to realize that when they have their micro wedding, they may have been planning to have a bigger wedding later, when I think there's going to be a significant amount of those couples that are going to say no, you know what, that was perfect. That's excellent. We can have parties, where everybody congratulate us for being married because I know that you and I have both experienced that with couples where they'll get married, and then they have plans to travel. And everywhere they're going to there's going to be like a reception for them. Right? Because they got married. So I think that that could happen. But I think a lot of couples are going to realize, no, what you and I experienced as officiants because of all of our experience of all of our track record of all the different types of weddings that we've been fortunate to be a part of, and how much we love the micro weddings, because of the intimacy and the honesty of the emotion and all that kind of stuff without the performance aspect. I think a lot of couples are gonna realize, No, you know what, that was perfect. And we don't need to try to do anything else.
JP Reynolds 12:35
Right. Right. I agree with you. Yeah.
Because if we had to do over, we would not have done the second day, we would have just said, You know what, we can't make it any better than it was on our wedding day. And that's good enough for us.
JP Reynolds 12:48
Right? Well, with this bride, it was lovely. You know, prior to the ceremony, prior to the beginning of the celebration, she had texted the groom, and simply said, Thank you for giving me the wedding of my dreams.
Oh my gosh. Well, that was before the wedding right, before the ceremony?
JP Reynolds 13:12
Yeah, yeah. And I thought, I don't think the original dream was a dream with 12 people. But that dream evolved. And she was just, they were both floating. They were just so happy.
I never had the feeling that, like, there's a certain point in your life, compare it to the biological clock. I know that that's a reality for some women, if they want to have a baby, there's a certain age point where I guess it's best if you do it before then. But in terms of finding the love that I would have for the rest of my life or finding that person? I guess I was really lucky that I wasn't worried that it wasn't going to happen because the odds are in my favor. Just in terms of humanity. No, I know that sounds a little, I gotta explain it. Humanity. I tell my daughter, went through a breakup, and I'll say, you know what, the numbers are in your favor. Because there's so many people in the world. How can you not interact or find somebody that is a good fit? How can you not and that's the way I felt that that even when I got to a certain point or when I would get lonely or whatever in between relationships or whatever it was. I never really worried that I wasn't going to find my wife. The numbers in my favor, it's just a matter of putting it out there and keeping my eyes open. That's the way it worked for me.
JP Reynolds 15:07
I think that attitude serves you well. And I think it's about it's not so much about numbers, as I think it is about attitude.
Oh, it makes a big difference, no doubt,
JP Reynolds 15:25
And interestingly, where the celebration took place on Friday, it was also the venue where I officiated a wedding for my oldest bride. And I've told I've told this story before, right?
She had a magnificent dress. That's what I remember.
JP Reynolds 15:54
Well, it was it was a very appropriate dress in that she didn't try to wear a white dress because she was for the getting married for the first time. At the age of 78. Wow.
Oh, my gracious.
JP Reynolds 16:10
Her groom, the groom, had been a widower, and he had been married just once. And he had been widowed. I just have always been in awe, and cheered on that couple and that bride and so when the groom that said to me, I'm so old, I said, Victor, you're so young compared to my oldest bride, you've got a long ways to go.
That whole thing of age is perspective, you know what I mean? I remember when I was in high school, and I was looking, thinking ahead to the millennium, the year 2000. And I thought, I'm gonna be 47. I'm going to be 47 when we get to the millennia. And now I look back on that, and like, 47 was awesome. You know, it's all perspective. And I have met a lot of people that say, I'm so old. And I my response is, you're a baby. Are you kidding me? And I don't mean baby with your attitude. I mean, chronologically, you're still a baby, you have so much ahead of you. I realized that nobody should take anything for granted. But still, to think that. I don't know. We have married couples. And I'm sure that your couples have said this to you where they just stopped looking. They just thought, okay, I don't want to be bothered anymore. I mean, I've been through heartaches, and I've been through frustrations, and I just don't want to be bothered anymore. I don't want to date. I don’t want to do any of that kind of stuff. And then the person walks into their life.
JP Reynolds 17:55
That's like every other week you get that stir. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah.
I don't know why the universe works like that. But it's kind of magical that it does. I also got another couple that I'm getting more and more couples that are meeting online. That seems to be more and more. And it's a different platform that I've never, it was two women. And I said, what was the platform? And they told me and I Okay, then you'll be the first from that platform.
JP Reynolds 18:23
Did you recall the platform?
I don’t. I don't remember. I'm so sorry. It didn't stick. I just knew that I'd never heard of it before, for next year.
JP Reynolds 18:34
Well, Clint, I never thought I'd find a podcasting host. And I had given up and then you walked into a networking event. And everything changed.
Did you hear the choirs of angels Did you?
JP Reynolds 18:54
Did you know it was the crashing of dishes? The waiter bumped into somebody?
JP Reynolds 19:09
Well, well. Alright, everybody, I think that we should put a little bow on this episode.
JP Reynolds 19:17
You have an anniversary to get to.
JP Reynolds 19:20
I stay ahead of you.
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