Hi, everybody, welcome to the wedding ceremony podcast. We talk about anything and everything that has to do with wedding ceremonies. This is episode number 311, recorded on Monday, April the 19th 2021. My name is Clint Hufft. And with me as the gentlemen that
okay, I can't even get into it. JP Reynolds.
JP Reynolds 0:26
Good morning. Good morning. Another week. It’s nice to be with you.
Oh, thank you. Thank you for the compliment, because it's nice to be with you, too. JP is an accomplished author. His books are in the Amazon store and in the Kindle Store in Amazon. He is a communications expert. thebusinessofconfidence.com is that website. His wedding website is JPRweddings.com. Mine is ReverendClint.com or ClintHufft.com, for all the things that I do.
Right off the bat, JP, we should say thank you, to Jamie and Heather, who hosts the Union Podcast available in the Apple Store. And wherever else you can find podcasts, the Union Podcast because they interviewed you and I and the episode just went live a few days ago. And it was just so much fun.
JP Reynolds 1:27
It was it was a lot of fun. And I know that you and I were delighted to be one of their first guests on their podcast, because their podcast is new. And they are excited and delighted. And it was it was great. It was great.
It was a lot of fun. And it was funny is that we can't help ourselves. We started launching into stories and telling stories and that kind of stuff. And then when it was all done, we had to explain to them that we were just scratching the surface, we were just scratching the surface of the surface.
JP Reynolds 2:10
If I recall, one of them said to us, oh, we were concerned if you guys would have any stories. Like, ah.
I did a wedding on Friday. And it's at a venue that I had never been to before. And here in Southern California, there are certain areas that are up in the hills and getting there is not necessarily like a straight shot, then so this was one of those. It was the top of a hill. And it was a little unsettling. Because even though my GPS was telling me where to go and where to turn and that kind of stuff. It just seemed like it took forever. I always had that trepidation with using GPS or Apple Maps that they're sending me someplace I don't want to go.
JP Reynolds 3:11
Because they're just messing with you.
Yes, exactly. Yes. Someone has a satellite of me driving up and down these mountain roads. And they're just laughing their heads off. Oh, look at all fancy, Reverend Clint. Oh. Well, let's see how you handle this. Mr. Big shot.
It turned out to be incredible. It was a home. And I don't know it makes me think about that kind of an investment where, you and I have done ceremonies at some beautiful houses and not just airbnbs but houses that it looks as though they have registered themselves with event professionals as a specific location that, you can have your event here and that kind of stuff. But the difference with this was number one, we had to take our shoes off if we went inside the house. The ceremony was outside and they had rented porta potties, that sort of thing. So the only thing that was available in the house was the bridal suite, which was a little room just off the entrance to the house, had to take the shoes off, and everything else was cordoned off. You could look and see the living room and I don't know if I could see the kitchen But anyway, you could see those things but you weren't allowed to go anywhere except to the entryway and that first room and that was it. But having said that, it was gorgeous. I mean the view of the entire, from the top of the mountain and you could see all of the canyon and it was beautiful and we were very lucky because normally when you get into a situation like that it can get pretty windy, but it was not. And like the other place that we've been With the name Stone in it, because that's what it was. It was Stone, something. It had a helipad. And that's where the ceremony took place. And I'm thinking to myself, it's just a different world to live, to be able to say, oh, and of course, my house has a helipad.
JP Reynolds 5:22
Now, was this a micro wedding?
Yes, it was. I don't know what the limit for micro is. If you had a cap it would you say less than 20? What would you say?
Yeah. There was a moment with the Lost Children of JPS weddings. It was awesome. There was a little girl.
JP Reynolds 5:48
Dangerous on that, though. Okay.
So there were three bridesmaids and three groomsmen, but they sat in the front row, the parents and that kind of stuff. And the mother of the bride. There was some logistical things here with the house. Again, I never worked there before, but the way the bride made her entrance, she had to come down some steps to get to the helipad, and then walk up the center aisle. When I heard that, because we zoomed a couple of weeks ago, I said, you might want to think about not having to carry your bouquet as you're coming down the steps because she was coming down all by herself. And I said, you want stability, you don't want to worry about dealing with the stairs, especially because you have to lift the front of your dress so that the toe of your shoe doesn't get caught in the hem of the dress. And then you go tumbling down the stairs, that's not a good way to start your wedding ceremony.
So I said, how about if you just have the bouquet waiting for you, when you get to the bottom of the stairs? That way one hand can hang on to the railing or whatever, you have to keep yourself safe and feeling secure. And then the other hand can lift the front of the dress, so that when you come down, you still look gorgeous and beautiful, but you're not worried about anything. And, then when you get to the bottom of the stairs, somebody can hand you the flowers. And, so the event planner was all in on that. And so one of her people was kind of hiding behind a wall. And then when the bride got to the bottom of the stairs, she reached out with the bouquet and that was that.
And then the bride's mother was waiting at the aisle in the back to escort her up. But the flower girl decided she wanted to stand next to the mom. The flower girl had a basket of flower petals, but didn't think of herself as being the flower petal distributor. She just stayed next to the mom, and didn't do the flower girl responsibilities. And so I couldn't tell if the flower girl, she was about five, I couldn't tell if she was scared to come up the aisle or if she wanted to be there When the bride arrived. I didn't know what was going on. So her mother was one of the bridesmaids. And I said, that's your daughter, right? And she said yeah, I said, you can go get her so she can come up the aisle.
Okay, so she gets up, she goes down there. And they have a brief discussion as one does with any five year old. And, then they come up the aisle and then she begins to distribute the, I love that look on the kid's face when they realize when they start doing their job. And that wonder of delight and pride and all that. And that's what happened. But I realized I was kind of like I had to make things happen on the fly. That was one of them.
The other one was the groom walks up the aisle, and then stands next to me. And then his parents escort each other up the aisle. And then they're about to go to their chair and sit down. And I said, you can go to them and hug them if you want. And then he did. And it was a neat moment, because as you know, a lot of people are just scared to do the wrong thing. And if somebody has some authority, like an event planner, or anybody says, and then you stand there, they think to themselves, that is all I'm allowed to do, is stand here, right? And so to have somebody like the officiant, no, we got a second, you can go hug your parents. That's all right. Right? It just kind of every single one of those little moments loosens everything up, all the tension that might be building in terms of people that think of formalities or they're A types or whatever. it loosens all of that up so that the ceremony then has more of a, I don't know, it's just more relaxed. Maybe there's a better word, but does that make sense?
JP Reynolds 9:57
Oh, it does. And that's why I say To the groom and to the bride, before the ceremony, I urge them to go with the flow. And I always say, for instance, with the groom, I say, bride, escorts stop at the first row says, I'll tap you on the shoulder, you'll go over. So, you can shake hands, hug, kiss, whatever you want to do with those people, that's fine with me. Thank you just come back to me. And they laugh. And but it's true. I don't care what you do with these people. But you'll feel comfortable doing it. And so, yes, whenever I can, I encourage a couple to go with the flow. I say that also to readers. I say after the reading, if you want to hug the couple, just go with your instincts, go with your instincts. And I remind people that the only person who can make a mistake is me. And I will never acknowledge it publicly.
That you made a mistake?
JP Reynolds 11:19
yeah. Nobody will know.
Well, I did make a mistake. And it was very public. There was no way around it. And it was amazing to me that it happened. I can't recall it ever happening before in the years and all of the weddings that I've ever done. And as you know, I have the ceremony printed out in front of me. Yeah. And there's a lot of reasons why I do that. But one of the great safety nets for me is that the the names of the bride and groom are on the entire thing.
No, no, no. Yeah,
Tell somebody on another podcast,
another podcast and tell them Oh, oh.
Are you gonna have nightmares over this?
JP Reynolds 12:05
Oh, this could very well be the number one nightmare that I have. But okay, I got it. I got a rum and coke. Go ahead.
Okay, I believe you. So let's move on. So here's the thing. If there's any way that I can help the people that are listening to this, not do what I did, then, there is some saving grace. No, we get all the way to the end. And I'm right there. I'm right there with everything. I know their names. I'm not really worried about it. The ceremony is flowing. It's beautiful. Everything is just great. At the very end, they kiss. And I say, may I present to you for the very first time. And I have no idea. But the wrong name for the groom jumped into my head. In fact, you know what, I don't even think it jumped into my head. It just came out of my mouth. And, they looked at me and said, No. It's da da. I said, Oh my gosh, you're right. That was just wrong. And I started all over again. I said, I now present to you for that because I knew that the video guy would have the clean edit right now present to you. And I said, I did it Right. And nobody said anything about it. But it was oh my god,
JP Reynolds 13:39
I have to reach my digitalis. I just I yes. But thank God. Okay, here's the thing. Let's just all hold hands have a moment of Zen. The good thing is that it happened at the end of the ceremony. So everybody knew you knew who these people were. If you if it happened at the beginning, people would think Ah, this idiot he doesn't even know who he's marrying.
Right and we hear stories like that.
JP Reynolds 14:11
Yeah. So it's better that you've established a rapport with the couple, with the guests. Everybody knows you're fabulous, lovely, man. Boom, boom, boom. And so they know it was a brain freeze. I one time, it wasn't when I was pronouncing them. But in the ceremony, I went to say the groom's name. And I totally blanked like nothing came into my mind.
Oh my gosh,
JP Reynolds 14:40
But it was okay because it was in the course of me speaking to the couple, and I had said the bride's name, and then I went to say the groom's name and so I was able to kind of cover it up. But it was like this moment of I had said his name earlier in the ceremony, but it was just this. This brain freeze, but I will say that this my Ah, yes. Okay, that's it. No more talking Yes. No, and I think singing.
I said a name that had the first consonant of it.
JP Reynolds 15:20
I know I like it. That's the tricky part, right? Yes, yes. And Melissa versus Michelle.
I don't know. I don't know where it came from. I have no idea where it came from. I wasn't thinking about that name. I wasn't I don't know. I have no idea where it came from.
JP Reynolds 15:36
We're human. Man. Well, I had an interesting experience on Friday. Because you may recall that last week at the end of our podcast, I said, Well, I have a wedding on Friday. Right? Yes. And then it turned out I didn't have a wedding on Friday. So I guess Yes.
Oh, what happened was, I had it was micro, micro micro. Yeah. Under 10. In in yet another canyon up Topanga way.
I had reached out to the couple the week before, just to reconfirm time and details. They were working with an event planner. I began the email by saying, Wow, hard to believe we're in countdown mode, just want to confirm, and I had some questions, right? Email me back within 24 hours. She said, so and so's gonna send you a timeline. And they go, Oh, of course she will. Because I worked with this event planner before and she's wonderful and fabulous, etc, etc. So, Thursday comes in, there is no timeline. And I thought, Oh, I guess it's just micro and she knows I've been in contact with the bride, and there's really no need. And then Friday came along, and it was gonna be later in the afternoon. And I just had this nagging sense that it's like, wow, this just is odd that she hasn't sent me a timeline. And then I thought, I should touch base with her just to give her the heads up of when I'm going to be arriving and whatever. And there was no need for me to send her like the ceremony, the outline, because there's just nothing to rehearse and all that good stuff. So I send the text, it's like, hey, just wanna let you know, I'll be there at five looking forward to see you. She immediately texts back and says, you know, the wedding's Not today?
Oh, man. Oh my gosh, my heart just jumped.
JP Reynolds 18:09
Oh, I got so the Friday was April 16. Right? The wedding is May 16.
Well, at least you weren't late.
JP Reynolds 18:21
Well, but and here's what's interesting. In my contract, I put down April 16. Oh, wow. And the couple signed off on the contract, the event planner had received a copy of the contract. And no one caught it. And again, it just reminds all of us that you can check and double check and triple check. And they will always be that one thing that slips by.
Well, the other thing it says is that nobody really reads. I mean, nobody really reads a contract.
JP Reynolds 19:02
Right? Yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah, it's I mean, I do have a couple sometimes you do read? And, but but for the most part, I think you're right.
I said nobody reads the contract. I don't think anybody reads anything. Because I would say at least 20 times over the last 10 years. I'll put a limit on that as well, at least 20 times over the last 10 years. I get a reply email that starts with hi Cliff. My name is all over my email. You know what I mean? Right. Where does that come from? And I think that's because it has happened a lot. There's got to be some scientific explanation for it. I have no idea what it is. But it does tell me that people don't really read stuff. You know, their brain just starts going and they kind of ride it.
JP Reynolds 19:58
I do want to point out I have a blog. That I update almost every week. I would like to think that people read it but other than people in Russia and China who leave comments,
is that true?
JP Reynolds 20:14
Well, they leave comment because it's spam. The robots Yeah, yeah. Great. Oh my gosh, no, it's not great.
Come on your fans are computers but still.
JP Reynolds 20:33
Anyway, and it was interesting because Friday It was like, Oh, I said, Well, I wasn't really wasn't in the mood to go up this canyon. And I asked her about where the airbnb is located. And of course, it is like yourself, because I will now admit, I will man up and say, like you, I do worry that the GPS is sending me to a ravine where a mass murderer lives and not the airbnb where the ceremony is taking place.
I just think I'm gonna end up in Wyoming.
JP Reynolds 21:14
Yes, yeah, but sure enough, next May, may 16. I will be traipsing through the canyons looking for this. You know, she said she's gonna have to put balloons throughout the roadway.
Oh, thank goodness. Yes. Absolutely. Oh, my God. Send her a thank you for me just for the balloon idea. Oh my gosh. That is such a lifesaver. emotionally.
JP Reynolds 21:38
Yeah. Yeah, man. Oh, man. Yeah. So. So there you have it
There we go. Well, JP.
JP Reynolds 21:50
It's been a while since we have both scared each other in a podcast.
I'm okay. If we don't do it again for another while I'm okay with that.
JP Reynolds 22:01
I promise you I will do my part to not scare you.
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